Wednesday, July 30, 2014

'Tis the Season of: Leo

At the hottest point of the summer, the Leo boys come out to play. You'll recognize them by their total lack of shirt. The most confident (but also UNconfident) sign in the zodiac, Leo is all about money, fame, power, and glory. They are fierce and they know it.



Leo boys need attention. They're like golden retrievers. They just want you to love them. In return, they will give you more love. That's a good thing about Leos. They are reciprocal. Even if most of the time their main concern is number one. Let's talk about me. ME. MEEEEE.

Leos are:
- Noble
- Protective
- Audacious
- Loyal
- Faaaaabulous



But this little kitty has claws, as Leos can also be:
- Childish
- Selfish
- Manipulative
- Tyrannical
- Jealous (especially of their spotlight)



Leos are definitely one of the better men of the gay zodiac though, and you should be very grateful to have Mr. Lion in your life. A Leo dude can help you:
- Be more confident socially
- With venting your frustration. Leos love to give advice and will always listen to a friend
- Partying
- Channel your efforts into achieving your goals
- Explore your sexual side




If you love a guy who is powerful, sexy, outgoing, and has a penchant for the dramatic, go catch a Leo by the tail!

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Cancer x Earth Signs

Cancer x Taurus - Heart + Earth = Stability



The Good: A fantastic match. Both of these men are homebodies in the sense that shelter and comfort bring them both security. They love to make meals and better yet, to eat them (both must be on top of their exercise and good health in this match). Together they will make a home for themselves, and this is why they are well-suited to marriage and companionship.

The Bad: Cancer's mood swings might send Taurus into a panic! Taurus likes emotions that are clear cut, but Cancer has several emotions that don't even have names in English. The good thing is, even when these two get moody, they prefer to do so by themselves. They must make sure that this does not translate into passive-agressive action. It is important for both men to discuss their feelings...even if some of them only have names in Swahili.

The Sexy: Taurus will take up the more active role in bed, but is comfortable with switching it up to Cancer's moods. Sex remains uncomplicated and intense.



Cancer x Capricorn - Heart + Metal = Virtue

The Good: This is a match that is all about sophistication. Both of these signs are class acts, Cancer emotionally so; and Capricorn for whom rationality is sexuality. This is a pairing that is fit for domestication, and both of these boys have their gumption and devotion to make it work. Capricorn is always practical when it comes to love, but Cancer is patient and knows what he likes. So does Capricorn. They are the same speed but different enough channels that their matching is a perfect compliment. As a unit, they are dad and dad. If they don't have children of their own, they'll be the ones taking care of the friend group, throwing the fancy house parties and making sure everyone is having a grand old time. These are two gentlemen rolling around town and living the good life.  

The Bad: A decline here can come in the form of neither of the two men being direct and vocal about their discomforts. Though both can put up with a lot, both will also internalize their problems until they boil over. These nitpicks and conflicts can come into bitter flavors, passive aggressive or resentfully submissive. The solution is the courage to confront problems head on. A little courage will do both of you some good.

The Sexy: These signs are pretty good at keeping others guessing their sexual appetites. Capricorn is the naughty librarian and Cancer is the closeted piggy. There will be slow and intense romance but there is plenty of submission and dominance to be had here as well. And both can dish and receive it.



Cancer x Virgo - Heart + Plants = Growth

The Good: Virgo and Cancer are two social men who nevertheless prefer to keep their true selves known only to themselves. In this match, they are comfortable sharing their most intimate secrets with each other. The Cancerian guy admires Virgo's smarm and smarts. The Virgo finds a faithful man who is in touch with his emotions in a very healthy way that most men fail to grasp. This is a pairing of shared interests and conjoined philosophies. Both love to love and find it as simple as that. A shame most of us always linger on the complications!

The Bad: But make no mistake, these two LOVE to argue. Cancer will of course be the first to shut down and give his Virgo man the silent treatment. Virgo will roll his eyes and back off but he will silently hold true to his criticisms. Virgos are about ethics and justice. Cancer is about emotions and instinct. In matters where these two approaches to life are at odds, so too will this coupling. Both will accuse each other of being controlling at some point or another, because both of these signs like to have a firm locus of control. Trust and communication will always have to be top priority with these two.

The Sexy: Neither of these two is straight up kinky-dungeon-man. But that said, they feel comofrtable exploring the lengths of their intimacies. Sex may start vanilla at first, but believe me, it's more Italian gelato than Ben and Jerry's.

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Cancer x Air Signs

Cancer x Libra - Heart + Sky = Butterflies



The Good: Admit it. When you were young, gay, and a little bit naive, you always fantasized about meeting your Prince Charming; your teenage dream. Then you grew up and realized that dating was complicated, frustrating, and occasionally soul crushing. This match disproves reality, because Cancer and Libra, at their cores, both want "true romance." Needless to say, this is a match that sticks. Cancer is loving, warm, and providing; Libra is romantic, fun, and loves being in a relationship. The balance (no pun intended) is perfect. Cancer can ground Libra from their flightier tendencies. Libra can ensure that Cancer can come out of his shell and be social.

The Bad: The downside to being around each other all the time is....you're around each other all the time. Libra will eventually need personal space. Cancer also needs to learn to respect his love's personal property. More than this, Libra, always cursed with the perpetual mentality of grass-is-always-greener, needs to realize that he will never have his "perfect" match, and that he would be a fool to give up a man as devoted as Cancer. At the same time, Cancer needs to learn that there is no such thing as affection and love "on tap." Libra's can be distant, but this is not always a sign of negativity or trouble in paradise.

The Sexy: Here, the keyword is foreplay. This pairing does not just get down to the nitty-gritty. There needs to be mood. Most definitely music.



Cancer x Gemini - Wind + Emotions = Ecstasy

The Good: This is a very social and dynamic match. Cancer and Gemini both navigate the gay world with relative ease, each one calling home to their own special skill set. Cancers are emotional and charismatic with friends who come to their defense. They usually roll with other romantics. Gemini on the other hand takes care of his own, is more aggressive and tends to hang out with the bad boys and other sources of gossip (even if he does not realize it/admit it). Their attraction then is dynamite stuff, at least at first. Everyone opens up to a Cancer, but Gemini feels like his intellect and scattered emotions are finally understood by someone. Cancer sees the romance and creativity in Gemini. Often they are attached at the hip.

The Bad: Unfortunately, this attachment can prove fateful. To their friends, everything may seem like paradise but that's because Gemini and Cancer are very good at P.R. Their conflicts come in cycles, since both of these signs are prone to mood swings. Cancer hates how detached Gemini can often be, wanting to go solo and such. Gemini finds Cancer to be clingy. Worse, they feed on their own drama.

The Sexy: In the boudoir, Cancer brings out the emotional aspect to typically mischievous Gemini Sexual roles often do not matter in this match, since either is comfortable with taking on fantasies and learning about new sexual aspect of themselves.



Cancer x Aquarius - Heart + Air = Calm

The Good: Cancer is always drawn, as a moth is to a flame, to the bad boys, the rogues, the outsiders. It is no wonder then that an Aquarius man should eventually enter into his sphere of knowing. Aquarius sees Cancer as being cute and fun, but obviously Cancer wants something more. Aquarius is Teflon and Cancer wants to be the glue on the macaroni art of his relationship picture. This mindset between them both will NEVER work. This is a relationship that needs to be built on mutual interests and mutual respect. Because, deep down, Cancer isn't so different than Aquarius is. He is a closeted philosopher with big and bright ideas. A humanist to the core. If he can prove this cerebral quality to Aquarius, while not coming on too strong, then this relationship can work. It's all about checking yourself.

The Bad: It is a tough sell. Cancer does not get his Aquarius guy's friends. Aquarius gets frustrated that Cancer turns into a wallflower in these social settings (and if it's Aquarius, these settings could be drum circles, slam poetry readings, LAN parties, or Burning Man). And Cancer is always asking "Why won't he pay attention to me? ME! MEEEE!!!!" The solution to both of these problems is in taking risks. If Aquarius can plan a fun little movie night in, mayyybe Cancer can muster up some courage to go out and be seen with his guy.

The Sexy: Here's the kinky little twist. This match means that both of these men are willing to push the envelope in bed. This means S/M. And believe it or not, these guys are both willing to play the role of the switch with each other.

Thursday, July 3, 2014

'Tis the Season of: Cancer

Summer is here at last and the hotter it gets, the less clothes the boys will be wearing. It's a great time to take a dip in the pool or the surf. And nobody knows the joys of getting wet better than those who call home to the sign with the most unfortunate of names.



Perhaps it is due to their unlucky moniker that Cancers have always known to err on the sensitive side. But make no mistake, this crabby has claws. Cancers are fiercely loyal to their loved ones and entirely in touch with their emotions--even if they sometimes don't really know how to reel them in.

Cancers are:
- Sensitive 
- Perceptive
- Invested 
- Caring 
- Adddooorable



But as we all know, crabs have the tendency to pinch. Cancers can also be:
- Violently moody
- Passive aggressive
- Self-victimizing 
- Irrational 
- Clingy 



That said, one should always have a Cancer in their friend group. They can help you with:
- Healing emotionally and physically 
- Finding your center
- Showing how to care for others
- Enjoying staying in 
- Becoming romantically inclined.

If you want a guy who is loving, devoted, in-tune with the universe and AMAZING at cuddles, you should do some beachcombing for a good crab.




Wednesday, July 2, 2014

We can breathe again, boys...

Mercury is now direct.



You may all return to your normally schedule Summer awesomeness.

What are you doing for this wonderful month of July? Sound off in the posts below.

AND FYI, I am completely aware I am behind on my shout-out to the sign of the month. I hope to have that up in the coming days. No tears, Cancerians.